A wedding shower is a pre-wedding party that usually includes all the women that are close to the bride. Often the bride will attend more than one bridal shower, one thrown by the brides side and the other thrown by the husband-to-be side of the family.
The bridal shower is a woman's only party; it is a party that is usually held on a weekend afternoon. Gift are given to the bride-to-be by the guests, games are usually played and a light lunch is commonly served by the hosts.
Your Final Tasks as a Bridesmaid
Wow, you've got to give yourself credit. Youve gotten yourself through the whole planning process of your girl friend or family member's wedding. So far you have endured a lot, lack of sleep, less personal time and your share of financial expenses that are related to the pre-wedding and actual wedding event.
You should be getting an award for being the best friend anyone could ask for. Although these things may not be playing a part in your thoughts, they will at some point be remembered through reminiscing with the girls. The bride has required much of your time and support. At times, you yourself may have felt relied upon a little too much. But hey, you did it. You have followed through with your duties and did the best you could. At first you were not sure how much you could handle, the dress was not your style, so much of your time was required and your pocket may have been emptier than ever. The one thing that helped you along however, was thinking about the bride and how happy your support was making her. Your job was to help make this planning period for the bride-to-be run smoothly, and you have! Congratulations.
Although the wedding is only days away and you may feel, as though you have done your part, there is still one thing you may be forgetting. Its the wedding day, yes thats right your job was to get the bride to this point and to accompany her through it. The wedding day is your final test as an attendant. This is the final stage where you will attend to the brides every need humbly, yes thats right, with a smile and a big fat yes dear.
This is a very big task for some people and as the bride will more than likely be in a state of nervousness, rushed, panic, and frustration, her attitude may not help much to improve on yours. Feel re-assured however, that no matter how ruff you may be feeling from your own exhaustion, it will soon be over and the celebrations will be yours to savor and be rewarded in. In most cases the overwhelming feeling and anxiety that builds just before and during the wedding ceremony is enough to make anyone irritated and nervous. At this moment most brides will commonly feel so overwhelmed with excitement that they may even say and do things that are unlike them. You are among the brides bridal party attendants and in so you are there to support and guide her into taking one of the most important steps in her life. Your new task throughout this period is to complete it. You will see just how much you are appreciated once the stress has passed and the bride's head is back to a normal state of mind.
The wedding day will require a lot of your attention, below are several areas in which you as an attendant will need to prepare for.
The big day checklist-
- Dont forget your bridal survival kit
- Nylons, bring a few pairs in case one runs
- Hair clips or head pieces
- Some change for the pay phone, just in case
- Camera and film
Your walk through the processional-
You will be expected to walk down the isle at the ceremony to the processional.
You should maintain a graceful appearance with a smile at all times, even if those shoe you loved so much are beginning to give you toe bleed. Below are some helpful hints that may help get you through this moment.
- Lift your feet, do not drag them
- Walk with your partner, do not pull him
- Avoid talking to your partner during the ceremony
- Do not hum to the music
- Watch your step, runners sometimes lift or scrunch together
- Remember what was told to you and practiced at the rehearsal
You will be in many pictures throughout the day. Many of theses pictures will be taken candidly, for this reason it is important to always keep a smile on your face and avoid any blank stares. Check your makeup and hair on a regular basis to ensure you wont get caught with flyaway hair or runny mascara. Think positive thoughts and take off to the ladies room as often as you need to, to escape the pressure of admiring eyes.
The receiving line at the reception-
This is a line that will be made up of the bride, groom, parents of both and the wedding party. It is usually set up at the entrance of the hall, as guests enter the reception they are welcomed by the receiving line and directed to their seats. Your job will be to shake the hands of the arriving guests and greet them as they pass.
The receiving lines order usually goes in this order;
- 1st in line is the brides mother
- 2nd in line is the brides father
- 3rd in line is the grooms mother
- 4th in line is the grooms father
- 5th in line is the bride
- 6th in line is the groom
- 7th in line is the matron of honor
- 8th in line is the best man
The rest of the wedding party can stand in any order
Offer a toast to the couple (optional)-
For many people, offering a toast can be intimidating. The toast should be done at an assigned time during the reception. Your toast can be short and sweet or long and touching. You may even decide to have one person make a speech for the entire wedding party. Either way, a toast should be provided. Here are some ideas to consider before making a toast to the married couple.
- Old stories of childhood memories are very common and always enjoyed
- Personal stories that may involve the love and relationship shared between the couple and how they met
- Religious speeches are great
- Simple congratulation speeches and a note of best wishes are very popular to those who find it hard to speak in front of an audience.
First dance with your partner-
It is a must that you pull yourself together for a dance with your partner. Wedding receptions commonly get things going by the bride and groom sharing their first dance as husband and wife. The next dance is usually shared with the wedding party, bride with her father and the groom with his mother. Even if you are not looking forward to this dance think about how short it will be, once it is over with, thats it for the rest of the evening.
Its time to party!
The reception is now starting to be fun, dinner has finished, the brides mood has mellowed and your job as her attendant is slowly easing. Youve come this far and you can finally enjoy the fun yet ahead. You will still be relied upon if the bride needs to use the ladies room or a guest passes out but for the most part your job is over. The evening is now yours to enjoy and to celebrate the wonderful experience you have encountered and been a part of.
Catching the bouquet-
All single women usually participate in the bridal bouquet toss. This is a commonly known game that is played at weddings. The bride stands with her back to the single ladies, she throws the bouquet over her head and the woman who catches it is suspected to be the next one to get married. Obviously this is not a fact but it is however, a common tradition played out at most weddings.
The evening has to end at some point. The bride and groom must take off to a private place where they will await their travel to a faraway destination. They will usually express their final appreciation to the crowed still around. The attendants (ushers & Bridesmaids) will each often assist the couple with getting out of their wedding day clothing and into regular clothes. The maid of honor will be responsible for taking the bridal gown to the cleaners for preservation and the best man will be responsible for taking the grooms rented tux back to the store.
Calling it a night-
So now its all over, youre exhausted from having danced the night away to the tunes of some good songs. Your duties are complete, and you have done your part in final wrap-ups and doings. What now? Lets start by adding another star to your profile of accomplishments. Head home for a nice relaxing night possibly with your significant other, maybe discus the event and share pillow chat. If you are a single bachelorette, then this evening may even inspire fantasies of your own. Whichever direction the night takes, tomorrows sun will bring with it a hole new day, filled with possibilities and more. Who knows, the next bride could be you.
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